Comments on: Confession #2

By: Dionne

Dionne — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 23:02:03 +0000

Thanks:)

By: Lauren

Lauren — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 05:08:39 +0000

“None of us can ‘grow’ alone.”

I love that sentence.

By: Dionne

Dionne — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 04:14:49 +0000

Yes, some is good. Just take it one situation at a time, one decision at a time AND it always helps to get feedback from others. I’m grateful that my bestfriend is a great sounding board for me and is always honest and tells me what I need to hear and not what I want to hear. None of us can “grow” alone.

By: jameystegmaier

jameystegmaier — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:51:39 +0000

Very interesting assessment. I hear that–I definitely hear the control thing. I think the hard part is, where do you draw the line? Surely some control is good.

By: Dionne

Dionne — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:34:34 +0000

You know I love your confessions! I’m proud of you for putting yourself out there…now if we can only work on your control issues. Yes, that’s right I said it- CONTROL. I know you’ve “owned” that before, but I thought I would rehash that issue because I, too, hate surprises for that reason alone- CONTROL. When it comes to emotions I tend to be controlling because I don’t like the attention put on me when I am not asking for it. I’ve always been the “observer” type in my life and rarely like the attention (unless its for a job well done and then my “teacher’s pet” attitude comes out). So I own that my deeper issue is CONTROL. I hope you continue to own yours and grow in that area in your life. I’ve found, as you mentioned, life is far to rich and exciting to let it pass you by because you felt you had to be in control when the idea of “control” is only a perception and not something real.

By: jameystegmaier

jameystegmaier — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:20:13 +0000

“Holy Balls” might be the best response ever. I laughed out loud.

There is something purifying in making my unfavorable qualities public. A blog is a great way to put your best foot forward, but I think it’s more genuine if you put both of your feet forward and let people really know you.

Impatience…you describe it really well in the way that you see what could have happened that morning if you had given it two more minutes. I’m equally impatient, but I’ve discovered that technology has actually made me less so. Specifically, the iPhone. Even if I’m lingering by the door waiting for someone, I can whip out my iPhone and have something to do. That way I don’t feel like I’m wasting time or the other person is wasting my time. It’s not a cure-all, especially when I know that I’m inconveniencing other people, but it certainly helps.

By: krw

krw — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:49:38 +0000

I love this confession thing. I’m almost inspired to make some confessions myself. I think it takes courage to make your unfavorable qualities public. This isn’t a jab; and to make up for it, I will admit that I can totally relate. I am pretty rigid. I might even say I’m OCD; well yes, I am OCD about certain things. Just ask my boyfriend–he’s become a victim of my sometimes anal behavior since we moved in together (sorry bf). I don’t like surprises and I am also very impatient. Here’s an example of my impatience: On some Saturday or Sunday mornings we plan to have coffee together. This is a sweet idea, but I operate on a schedule. I get up early and I immediately drink my coffee. On these days that we plan to drink coffee together, I am forced to wait for bf to wake up. This is okay. I can do this once a week. Last Saturday, I waited until the exact moment he opened his eyes and then I announced, “OkayI’mleavingseeyouthere” (to which his reply was, “Holy balls”). I definitely could have waited 2 minutes for him to get dressed. We could have strolled hand-in-hand down the block to the coffee shop while the leaves swirled with the wind around our feet on that unseasonably warm fall morning. Too bad I’m impatient.

By: jameystegmaier

jameystegmaier — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:46:42 +0000

Well, I don’t have to do the confessions on the blog, but I thought it might be a good way to be a little more vulnerable out in the open. Most of my posts aren’t really personal at all, so this is a way for people to get a better feel for the “real” me.

By: jameystegmaier

jameystegmaier — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:45:34 +0000

Great point about feelings–I actually meant to write about that in the paragraph, but then I forgot and kept writing! Whereas I was all too concerned about my teachers’ feelings, I completely disregarded my girlfriend’s. Why is that? Even now I can’t make sense of it.

By: Joe S

Joe S — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:38:50 +0000

I know a guy who can relate to you. You know him – his name sounds like “Beef Wellington”. My last girlfriend was alot like this. So I can relate – to Mayu.

Good confession though. Why do you have to do it on a blog, is Fr. G locking you out of the confessional these days?