Comments on: Mars vs. Venus: When Worlds Collide http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/12/mars-vs-venus-when-worlds-collide/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:00:10 +0000 hourly 1 By: jameystegmaier http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/12/mars-vs-venus-when-worlds-collide/#comment-1926 jameystegmaier Wed, 23 Dec 2009 04:20:39 +0000 http://jameystegmaier.com/?p=1701#comment-1926 You hit on exactly what I was trying to say by "staking claim"--when men treat women as objects to be guarded or kept for themselves. I think there are many verbal and nonverbal ways to do this, but the most overt ways are physical. It's one thing to hold hands or have some physical contact in the presences of others (in this case, in the presence of me), but it's quite another to have your arm around your girlfriend or be really kissy or touchy-feely. That has the effect of excluding the third party, which has the effect of saying, "She's mine." I thought it was awesome that Doug didn't sit right next to Lauren--it made us all equals in the conversation and allowed Lauren to be just Lauren, instead of just "Doug's girlfriend." You hit on exactly what I was trying to say by “staking claim”–when men treat women as objects to be guarded or kept for themselves. I think there are many verbal and nonverbal ways to do this, but the most overt ways are physical. It’s one thing to hold hands or have some physical contact in the presences of others (in this case, in the presence of me), but it’s quite another to have your arm around your girlfriend or be really kissy or touchy-feely. That has the effect of excluding the third party, which has the effect of saying, “She’s mine.” I thought it was awesome that Doug didn’t sit right next to Lauren–it made us all equals in the conversation and allowed Lauren to be just Lauren, instead of just “Doug’s girlfriend.”

]]> By: Christa http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/12/mars-vs-venus-when-worlds-collide/#comment-1925 Christa Wed, 23 Dec 2009 02:52:56 +0000 http://jameystegmaier.com/?p=1701#comment-1925 Well, since no one else has asked, I will. Jamey, when you said: "some guys would have made it a point to stake claim of their girlfriend. " What do you mean? I'm envisioning a woman being thrown over the man's shoulders, which I don't see many women appreciating. So in today's world, how does a man "stake his claim?" I'm also trying not to laugh at that phrase. It makes me feel like an object instead of a person, although I know that's not how you intended it. Well, since no one else has asked, I will. Jamey, when you said: “some guys would have made it a point to stake claim of their girlfriend. ” What do you mean? I’m envisioning a woman being thrown over the man’s shoulders, which I don’t see many women appreciating. So in today’s world, how does a man “stake his claim?”

I’m also trying not to laugh at that phrase. It makes me feel like an object instead of a person, although I know that’s not how you intended it.

]]> By: Colleen http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/12/mars-vs-venus-when-worlds-collide/#comment-1924 Colleen Mon, 21 Dec 2009 20:37:42 +0000 http://jameystegmaier.com/?p=1701#comment-1924 That’s very true, it is like a conversation. I could probably post comments that are 2, 3, and 4 paragraphs long b/c reading blogs often tends to make me reflect on my own experiences ... but I will try and refrain from such lengthy commentary all the time! lol. That’s very true, it is like a conversation. I could probably post comments that are 2, 3, and 4 paragraphs long b/c reading blogs often tends to make me reflect on my own experiences … but I will try and refrain from such lengthy commentary all the time! lol.

]]> By: Colleen http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/12/mars-vs-venus-when-worlds-collide/#comment-1923 Colleen Mon, 21 Dec 2009 20:24:47 +0000 http://jameystegmaier.com/?p=1701#comment-1923 Looking forward to it! Looking forward to it!

]]> By: jameystegmaier http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/12/mars-vs-venus-when-worlds-collide/#comment-1922 jameystegmaier Mon, 21 Dec 2009 17:20:46 +0000 http://jameystegmaier.com/?p=1701#comment-1922 I'm glad you've gotten into the commenting! It makes all this digital stuff feel like more of a conversation. Definitely take some time to explore Lauren's blog--it's awesome. And inspiring. I’m glad you’ve gotten into the commenting! It makes all this digital stuff feel like more of a conversation.

Definitely take some time to explore Lauren’s blog–it’s awesome. And inspiring.

]]> By: jameystegmaier http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/12/mars-vs-venus-when-worlds-collide/#comment-1921 jameystegmaier Mon, 21 Dec 2009 17:19:34 +0000 http://jameystegmaier.com/?p=1701#comment-1921 Oh, I know YOU weren't trying to make me sound like a jerk. I think I just read that and realized how pitiful it is that I won't go out of my way for people (for those of you out of the loop, you can read about it here: http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/11/04/confession-1/). It's something I need to work on. It is true that Lauren bumped up the time, but I was so excited to meet her and Doug, it didn't matter! I was actually napping at the time. Fortunately I have the cat-like ability of going from fully asleep to fully awake in a matter of seconds. Oh, I know YOU weren’t trying to make me sound like a jerk. I think I just read that and realized how pitiful it is that I won’t go out of my way for people (for those of you out of the loop, you can read about it here: http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/11/04/confession-1/). It’s something I need to work on.

It is true that Lauren bumped up the time, but I was so excited to meet her and Doug, it didn’t matter! I was actually napping at the time. Fortunately I have the cat-like ability of going from fully asleep to fully awake in a matter of seconds.

]]> By: Lauren http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/12/mars-vs-venus-when-worlds-collide/#comment-1920 Lauren Mon, 21 Dec 2009 17:16:54 +0000 http://jameystegmaier.com/?p=1701#comment-1920 Thanks, Colleen! I'm glad you enjoyed the post and I look forward to more interaction with you in the future, here and on MLI! :) Thanks, Colleen! I’m glad you enjoyed the post and I look forward to more interaction with you in the future, here and on MLI! :)

]]> By: Lauren http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/12/mars-vs-venus-when-worlds-collide/#comment-1919 Lauren Mon, 21 Dec 2009 17:16:16 +0000 http://jameystegmaier.com/?p=1701#comment-1919 I DID NOT mean for #6 to make you sound like a jerk. We were happy to meet where ever you suggested. I just thought it would be funny to list, as you so candidly confessed your aversion to going out of your way. If it makes you feel better, I can tell everyone that I sprung meeting up an hour earlier than planned at the last minute and you obliged, willingly and cheerfully! ;) I DID NOT mean for #6 to make you sound like a jerk. We were happy to meet where ever you suggested. I just thought it would be funny to list, as you so candidly confessed your aversion to going out of your way. If it makes you feel better, I can tell everyone that I sprung meeting up an hour earlier than planned at the last minute and you obliged, willingly and cheerfully! ;)

]]> By: Colleen http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/12/mars-vs-venus-when-worlds-collide/#comment-1918 Colleen Mon, 21 Dec 2009 16:59:06 +0000 http://jameystegmaier.com/?p=1701#comment-1918 Jamey and Lauren - I think it’s really cool that you got a chance to meet, and I enjoyed hearing about your experience! I can totally see how developing an online friendship through your blogs would make you want to carry that over into real life and meet up. I don’t have a blog, but I enjoy reading other people’s blogs, as well as the comments they receive. Jamey, you actually got me hooked on leaving comments. :-) Can you tell? lol. So anyway - now I understand a little more how friendships really can develop, and that it’s fun and enjoyable to interact online. And all I do is leave comments! So I can imagine how cool it must be for the both of you to have connected as fellow bloggers. By the way, I clicked over to your blog, Lauren, and I enjoyed reading your post about this as well! I’ll have to check out some more of your blogs! :-) Jamey and Lauren -

I think it’s really cool that you got a chance to meet, and I enjoyed hearing about your experience! I can totally see how developing an online friendship through your blogs would make you want to carry that over into real life and meet up. I don’t have a blog, but I enjoy reading other people’s blogs, as well as the comments they receive. Jamey, you actually got me hooked on leaving comments. :-) Can you tell? lol. So anyway – now I understand a little more how friendships really can develop, and that it’s fun and enjoyable to interact online. And all I do is leave comments! So I can imagine how cool it must be for the both of you to have connected as fellow bloggers. By the way, I clicked over to your blog, Lauren, and I enjoyed reading your post about this as well! I’ll have to check out some more of your blogs! :-)

]]> By: jameystegmaier http://jameystegmaier.com/2009/12/mars-vs-venus-when-worlds-collide/#comment-1917 jameystegmaier Mon, 21 Dec 2009 15:54:52 +0000 http://jameystegmaier.com/?p=1701#comment-1917 What's your favorite bar in St. Louis? Where would you have recommended that we went? I would have preferred to go to Barristers in Clayton or the bar at Pi, but I thought they would have been harder to find. What’s your favorite bar in St. Louis? Where would you have recommended that we went? I would have preferred to go to Barristers in Clayton or the bar at Pi, but I thought they would have been harder to find.

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