How to Be Unexpectedly Sexy
The other day a reader e-mailed me about a topic he had been thinking about recently. I don’t know exactly what triggered this question, but the reader was curious about if I had ever noticed a woman doing a fairly normal, everyday activity and found it unexpectedly sexy. The example he referenced was that a woman wearing a bikini at the beach is expectedly sexy, while a woman shopping for power drills at Home Depot is unexpectedly sexy.
I mentioned this idea to fellow blogger Penelope, and we decided to write companion entries about things we find expectedly sexy about the opposite sex. The pattern I see in my responses is I find women unexpectedly sexy doing things or in situations that are stereotypically male; also, if a woman shows that she is aware of the needs of others–especially strangers–I find that incredibly sexy. There are a few others that fit into neither category.
How to Be Unexpectedly Sexy (for Women)
- Smile. It’s that easy. The next time you walk by a guy, smile at him. You’ll make his day
- Make an Excel spreadsheet
- Be a sportscaster
- Hold the door open for someone
- Be attentive to the elderly
- Pet my cat (literally…my cat, Biddy)
- Wear high socks with stripes
- Know instinctively where I’m going to pass in Frisbee or soccer and move to that position
- Buy fresh food at the grocery store
- Get popcorn and a drink at the movie theater
I hope this doesn’t come across as chauvinistic. I’m pretty sensitive to that ever since someone accused me of being a chauvinist in the comments section in a post a few months ago.
What’s something you find unexpectedly sexy about your gender of choice? Go check out Penelope’s perspective too!
I absolutely love your list!
I do, however, need more explanation on the overalls. What is sexy about overalls?
Oops! This was an error. Original that one read “wear overalls,” as you read, but I meant to change it to “wear high socks with stripes,” as it currently reads. Tight overalls with a thin cotton T underneath are pretty sexy, though. I just couldn’t find a good photo for it.
Ah, that definitely makes more sense! High socks with stripes and short shorts (or green boycut underwear) are sexy. I’ll give you that.
The reason you couldn’t find a picture of overalls being sexy is because they’re not.
Hm…I beg to differ. Turn off Google’s SafeSearch and search for “sexy overalls.” You’ll see some pics that are decidedly not blog friendly
ignore my sister. she is prejudiced against southern people
Interesting list, Jamey. I happen to always know where to pass frisbees and soccer balls and do so with uncanny accuracy. Ask my brother. It drives him insane. And Biddy is to you what babies are to Penelope.
Wow, I think by your definition I might be the least sexy woman ever. Well, except I am really good at Excel. But so are a lot of old people I know. Sexy, sexy, old people.
You’re not even attentive to the elderly?!
i am DEFINITELY not attentive to the elderly. old people are horrifying.
Wow…I can honestly say that the only thing on your list that could also be on my list is #7 (but only if it’s accompanied by the green underwear-like shorts, which may put this one out of the “unexpected” category). Almost everything I can think of would fall into the expected or intentionally sexy category. Here are the few unexpectedly sexy things I can think of:
1) Sass. Throw out an expletive every now and then. It’s hot. (I’d add, “Have a dirtier mind than I do,” but that might fall under expected…at least in my book.)
2) Like my kind of music and movies. Awesome.
3) Complement (not compliment) my sense of humor. “Get” my jokes and play off of them. Also awesome.
4) Passion for wine and/or beer. Extra points if it’s full-bodied red wine (cabs, zins) and microbrews.
5) Stare at the ocean and mean it. Damn, I love the ocean. I could just sit there and watch the waves all day. I’d be intrigued by a woman who felt the same.
It’s hard to differentiate this list from a “what I like in a woman” list. I tried to think of just those things that I would actually find sexy. Thoughts?
Ooh, I’m bummed I didn’t think of your #5! That’s a great one! Although I could substitute ocean for Lake MI.
Lake MI for ocean, I meant
Great list. I really like sharp, flirtatious banter (similar to your number 1). I like #3 too, someone who’s able to play off my sense of humor while maintaining a unique sense of humor herself.
Hmm. I guess I need to find a guy like T-Mac. Although, to be fair, I don’t know what kind of music and movies he likes
Interesting list, Jamey. Quite a few surprises. I laughed at “Be a sportscaster.” Commented on Penelope’s blog so I don’t want to duplicate. I love when you all do these dual posts though. Nice job.
Thanks, Trisha. Trevor’s good at water sports. I, however, sink like a rock. It’s physically impossible for me to wakeboard.
I’ve actually never attempted the wakeboard. I was thinking more like a knock down drag out tubing challenge. Because if tubing were an Olympic sport, I’d be famous!
Ha ha…it should be an Olympic sport
This is my response that I posted on Penelope’s site:
I tend to be attracted to Alpha males (probably because I’m an Alpha female) so when I see a guy who only doesn’t have to say much and people around want to follow him (as in leadership) I go to pieces.
Another time I witnessed a man call out a teen girl in public-a stranger- because she disrespected a sales person in the store. I wanted to mount him right there…lol.
Nice list, good sir. I’ll come late to the party and add more, shall I?
1. Bite your lower lip and twirl a lock of hair around your finger when you’re concentrating.
2. Talk some smack, especially if there’s some kind of challenge involved. (I wonder who we know that does that….)
3. Enjoy a good drink, but be able to hold your liquor. (Except, talking smack about this isn’t all that sexy.)
Oh, the list could go on. I’ll stop there.
Oo, nice list–great additions. Especially the first one.
There are definitely different categories of sexy in all of these lists. Being attentive to the elderly is a character quality. Wearing high socks with stripes is an unexpectedly sexy quality. Both very good, but in very different categories.
Having traits on a sexy character quality list is great for the long term friend/mate ranking. But don’t confuse that with the unexpectedly sexy high tube socks head turn.
I want to add one to the list. Being environmentally conscious. Whenever I see a girl at the grocery store with canvas bags, I swoon.
Ok, here’s my list for guys:
1. Be freshly showered. Then put on clean jeans, a white t-shirt and flipflops. MMMmmmm
2. I love guys who fall to pieces when they see puppies. I once dated a guy who acted like he was 5 when he saw a puppy. He turned out to be a jerk but the puppy thing is one of the reasons I really liked him in the first place.
3. Say something really sweet randomly during a conversation. A friend once said to me “I love grace in people”.
4. I know you guys love it when girls swear (according to your list above.) I like guys who refuse to swear. No bad boys for me!
5. Tell me you’re trying to eat healthier. But I don’t want to hear all about your diet. That’s not sexy.
6. Take a really awesome picture.
I think that’s it for me right now. I’m going to get my canvas bags and head to the grocery store.
That’s a GREAT list. I must say that I haven’t always been that guy who falls to pieces when he sees a puppy (or cat), but in recent years I’ve turned into that guy.
Did I say I like girls who swear? I don’t care either way. I don’t swear, though, aside from the occasional “damn.”
Great list–like it a lot!
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