Should You Lie About Your Age?

Should you lie about your age on your online dating profile?

Short answer: No. You should be completely truthful about your age, height, income, etc. You should use recent photos that actually look like you. Be 100% open and honest, because when you go on dates, they’ll know if you’ve been lying.

Long answer: Still no, but it’s slightly more complicated than that.

I’ve had this theory for a while that I want to share with you. I got on Match.com in early August of last year. I was 29 at the time. I turned 30 in early January. My theory is that the number of women under 30 who have contacted me on Match has dropped precipitously since I turned 30, as if there’s a huge gap between 29 and 30.

Now, I want to say up front that I have no problem at all with older women contacting me. I certainly think there’s an element of me wanting to feel like I still attract younger women–that’s definitely there. But beyond that, age doesn’t really matter to me.

I didn’t think I’d be able to test this theory until tonight, when I realized that I could search my gmail for the word “winked” and find every woman who has winked at me on Match. So I compiled the data, and here’s what I found:

  • The past year, 421 women have winked at me on Match.com, 220 of them when I was 29, 201 of them since I turned 30.
  • This is somewhat irrelevant, but just to show you that the data isn’t skewed by me winking at every woman on Match, I wink at about 5 women a month on Match.
  • The average age of women who winked at me when I was 29 was 27.84. Since I’ve been 30, that average has climbed to 28.16 (a negligible difference).
  • The percentages show a slightly larger gap, but not by much: In my youth, 72% of women who winked at me were under 30. Since I’ve turned 30, that percentage has dropped to 66%.
Thus my hypothesis held a only a shred of truth. So I’d like to thank all women–those who are younger and those who are older–for considering me an eligible bachelor. I hope you treat other men the same way.