Me Too?

In the wake of the Harvey Weinstein allegations, I’ve seen a lot of revelatory posts on social media about sexual harassment. It’s been powerful for me to see how many people have written the following message (sometimes with a specific story, sometimes without):

Me Too.

If all the people who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote “Me too.” as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.

It’s appalling to see how many people (mostly women, but men too) have echoed their version of this post.

While I’d never want to make this issue about me, given the inclusive nature of these posts, I had to wonder, “Me too? Have I been sexually harassed or assaulted?”

The weird thing is, I don’t think so, but I’m not sure, and I’m almost hesitant to say because I don’t want to diminish the experiences of others. The only example I can think of is one time many years ago when a girl was flirting with me at a club, and she grabbed my crotch. I wasn’t interested in her and didn’t want her to grab my crotch, but I also didn’t feel assaulted. However, I can understand that for many people, that would be a violation.

Beyond that, I’ve either gotten lucky or I’ve repressed some stuff. Either way, it doesn’t make me any less empathetic of anyone who has experienced sexual harassment or assault. If you have a “me too” story, I’m so sorry you’ve had that experience.