life lessons

How Do You Walk Away?

How Do You Walk Away?

I got some great advice the other day from a colleague. He had read one of my Stonemaier Games blog posts about the stresses of fulfillment, and he chimed in with his two cents: “I NEED to walk away for a while. Maybe it’s an hour, maybe it’s a day or maybe it’s a week, […]


Is Generosity an Indicator of Success?

Is Generosity an Indicator of Success?

In a recent episode of Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee, Jerry Seinfeld asks Lorne Michaels (7:20), “How did you see in Jimmy Fallon that there was a talk-show host in him?” Michaels replies (I’m paraphrasing here), “He’s truly funny, and he’s incredibly talented, obviously, but he also is generous. I’ve been thinking about that line ever since […]


What Would You Say to Your High School Self?

What Would You Say to Your High School Self?

Every 2 years, my high school has an “Alumni Showcase” day when they invite graduates to return to the school to share their infinite wisdom with the students. I regretted not going 2 years ago, so I decided for sure I would go this year. Even though I was speaking to 14-18 year olds, I […]


Is Life Easier If All of Your Clothes Are the Same?

Is Life Easier If All of Your Clothes Are the Same?

Every morning/afternoon when I get dressed, I spend about 67 seconds selecting my outfit for the day based on my mood, activities that day, and availability of clean clothes. 67 seconds isn’t much, but is that time and mental energy I could better spend on other things? Steve Jobs (who I generally try not to emulate) thought […]


Repairmen Are People Too

Repairmen Are People Too

Friday was my dad’s birthday. Without realizing it at the time, I did something good that day that I learned from him. Much to the chagrin of my cats, my condo association decided to install a new alarm system in the building. So on Friday, an electrician showed up to wire in the new alarm. […]


The American Dream

The American Dream

A few days ago I was watching a Daily Show segment about the Illinois lottery when something struck me as very disconcerting. The segment focused on a middle-aged couple who had recently won around $250,000 in the state lottery. The focus of the segment was on Illinois’ current inability to actually pay lottery winners, even though […]


It’s Important to Try Things

It's Important to Try Things

I’ve been trying for months to derive some sort of life lesson for the story I’m going to tell here, but I haven’t figured it out, so I’ll just tell the story and hopefully it will mean something important. I was having lunch with an old friend at A Pizza Story, a Neapolitan pizza place […]


Tiny Houses and the Dream of Entertaining

Tiny Houses and the Dream of Entertaining

This past weekend, I helped a friend move into a tiny house. Specifically, he and his family (one wife and two sons) moved from a decent-sized house to a much smaller house. I think it’s around 900 square feet, plus a basement. For a while now, my friend has been reading a blog called Mr. […]


Is It Possible to Maintain Sexual Chemistry with One Person Forever?

Is It Possible to Maintain Sexual Chemistry with One Person Forever?

Given that I’m single, the question posed in the title has not occurred to me for quite some time. But yesterday I stumbled upon a riveting TED talk called, “The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship,” and it rekindled my interest in the subject. The talk, given by Esther Perel, is all about, our […]


The Worst Financial Advice I’ve Received from Smart People

The Worst Financial Advice I've Received from Smart People

Yesterday I was checking out after eating dinner at a local Mexican restaurant. I had enough cash to pay for my meal, but I commented that I rarely like to use cash when I could use my credit card, as it allows me to track and categorize all of my purchases. Every month I look […]


Why You Should Go to the Doctor When You Notice a Lump

Today I got a rather shocking group e-mail from a friend about a recent development in his life. I’m really grateful that he shared his story, and I asked him if I could post it on my blog so it might benefit you as it benefited me. He asked to remain anonymous, hence the lack […]


The Power of Asking for Feedback

The Power of Asking for Feedback

A few days ago I listened to a talk about asking for feedback. While I’ve been a big fan of the power of asking for feedback for a long time now (as a manager at my previous job, to my Kickstarter backers at my current job, and in general), the talk really opened me to […]


Pet Peeve #57: More Than One Question Mark or Exclamation Point

Pet Peeve #57: More Than One Question Mark or Exclamation Point

Let’s start off with some examples: Exhibit A: Hey, Jamey, did you get that e-mail I sent you this morning? Exhibit B: Hey Jamey, did you get that e-mail I sent you this morning?? — Exhibit C: Myra had the baby! Exhibit D: Myra had the baby!! — They’re subtle differences, to be sure, but […]


Wil Wheaton Explains Bullying with Compassion

I was a keynote panel member today at a funding session at a local university, and the experience reminded me of one of my favorite YouTube videos. It’s a video of Wil Wheaton (the host of a YouTube show about board gaming called Tabletop) serving on a panel at a gaming convention. A kid asks him […]


A Post About Ashton Kutcher?

A Post About Ashton Kutcher?

If you told me 4 years ago that I would post a blog entry about Ashton Kutcher, I would have said, “That’s random. Who are you?” (Because I probably didn’t know you then. I probably don’t even know you now.) Yet here I am. Do you ever find yourself clicking one link after another online […]


The Eighth Love Language

The Eighth Love Language

It’s been a while since I’ve written about love language, so if you want to catch up on my original entries, they are listed here (in addition to the original 5 love languages): Acts of Service Touch Quality Time Words of Affirmation Gifts Chocolate Quantity Time I also wrote an entry about the 15 workplace […]


You’re More Than Just a Form Letter

You're More Than Just a Form Letter

Did you know that today is Roald Dahl Day? I didn’t even know this, and I’m a huge Roald Dahl fan, as I wrote about earlier this year. I only know this because I recently got an e-mail from someone asking if they could write a guest post on my blog about Roald Dahl Day. […]


The Regret of Failed Kindness

The Regret of Failed Kindness

Every once in a while a graduation speech goes viral. That in itself is remarkable to me–think about how many graduations happen across the country and the world every spring. There are probably hundreds of great speeches, many of which we’ll never hear or hear of. So when one is notable enough to be published […]


Relationships Are Just Like Soccer Cleats: A Life Lesson from My Father

Relationships Are Just Like Soccer Cleats: A Life Lesson from My Father

The other day I noticed that a pair of my dress shoes had some deep scuff marks on the front edge. If I didn’t know any better, I might have thought about buying a new pair of shoes. That’s what we do, right? Something gets old, so we throw it out and buy something new. […]


10 Personal Finance Tips for My Generation

10 Personal Finance Tips for My Generation

People often come up to me and say, “Hey Jamey, how do you manage your personal finances?” To those people I say: “Do I know you?” But perhaps a better response would be to share what I do in the hopes that it will benefit you. And perhaps you have some interesting methods for managing […]


You Are Not as Interesting as You Think You Are

You Are Not as Interesting as You Think You Are

You need to know this: You are not as interesting as you think you are. And that’s okay. It’s just important that you know it. It’s human nature to think that you are interesting. You get to live in your body and experience all these thoughts and desires and observations that only you can experience […]


I Have Some Regrets

I Have Some Regrets

I’m sure you’ve heard people–perhaps including yourself–say, “I have no regrets.” Usually it’s proceeded by a big “but.” “I shouldn’t have dated her, but I have no regrets.” “I didn’t have the money to take that trip, but I have no regrets.” “I wish I had gone to a different college, but I have no regrets.” What’s […]


The Artist’s Way? No Way.

The Artist's Way? No Way.

Perhaps you, like me, have once had someone–perhaps an overbearing aunt or a coworker who bikes to work–insist that you read The Artist’s Way. Multiple people (including someone on Facebook recently, hence this post) have suggested that I read this book, saying things like “It’ll free your creativity” and “You’re creative–you’ll like this book.” I […]


The $20 Rule

The $20 Rule

The $20 rule is that you could lose a $20 bill and not even know it, so let yourself be somewhat cavalier when considering a purchase of $20 or less. I learned about this rule about a year ago when I revealed to a friend–we’ll call her Emily–that I was waffling over a skinny tie […]