relationships

Is an AI Relationship Real?

Is an AI Relationship Real?

This week I have several questions about the future, each inspired by Blade Runner 2049, which I saw on Saturday (very minor spoilers to follow). It’s an odd case where I liked the ideas presented by the movie more than the movie itself–it’s fine, but just not something I fell in love with. I did, […]


Have You Ever Competed for a Lover Like a Bird?

Have You Ever Competed for a Lover Like a Bird?

In romantic comedies and sitcoms, one trope I’ve never understood is when two guys compete for the same girl. Now, I understand what it’s like to pursue the affections of a woman while she’s also being pursued by someone else. We can’t help what we feel. The part I can’t comprehend is the primal aspect of competition: […]


A First Date Where All You Do Is Smell Each Other

A First Date Where All You Do Is Smell Each Other

I’ve never tried speed dating. The idea of it is interesting, but I want a fast way of seeing if someone intrigues me, I’ll use an online dating site instead. But I watched a video the other day about something called “sensory speed dating,” and it’s a really interesting concept. It combines standard speed dating–spend a […]


What’s Your Type of Crazy?

I took a walk with an old friend the other day. I don’t talk many walks simply for the purpose of walking and talking, but it was rather nice. A good way to catch up. He mentioned a really interesting article that he discovered this summer. The core concept is it recommends that people at […]


3 Big Ways to Improve Your Friendships Today

3 Big Ways to Improve Your Friendships Today

Years ago I stumbled upon a fascinating list of attributes related to happy, long-lasting marriages. At the top of the list were two fascinating–and unexpected–traits that indicate you’ll have a successful marriage: When you laugh at something you’re watching or reading and your spouse responds with interest. If you and your spouse go to a […]


What’s Your Facebook Friend Policy?

What's Your Facebook Friend Policy?

Lately I’ve been getting a lot of Facebook friend requests. This is most likely due to the visibility of my Kickstarter project, but I think most people on Facebook probably get a few Facebook requests every month. At least. For a long time now, even before all the board game stuff happened, my personal policy […]


The End of Dating

The End of Dating

Okay, this has to be a sign. Two years ago, I attended a big hot air balloon glow in St. Louis with my parents, who were visiting from out of town. I had a great time, and I swore to myself that the next year I would return with a date, because it seems like […]


What Should You Do If the Person You Like Is Already Dating Someone?

What Should You Do If the Person You Like Is Already Dating Someone?

I was talking to a friend from back home recently about some love troubles he’s been having, and I didn’t have great advice for him at the time, so I wanted to talk out the situation here in the blog. For the purposes of this entry, I’m talking about a guy liking a girl, but […]


The Dilemma of Scent

The Dilemma of Scent

Lately I’ve been turning to the zany questions on OkCupid for blog fodder from time to time. Today is one of those times. The question: If you bought your partner perfume or cologne as a gift, would you buy them a scent they love or a scent you love? I feel like this is one of those […]


Would You Let Someone Else Choose Your Bedtime Attire?

Would You Let Someone Else Choose Your Bedtime Attire?

Lately I’ve been using compatibility questions from the dating site OkCupid for blog fodder. Here’s today’s question: Would you allow your partner to decide what you wear to bed? The way I read this question (this might be incorrect, it’s it’s how I’m looking at it) for me is: Would I allow a girlfriend to tell […]


Sex vs. Friends vs. Love vs. Creations

Sex vs. Friends vs. Love vs. Creations

I’m using compatibility questions from the dating site OkCupid for blog fodder. Here’s today’s question: If you could only choose one of the following, would you rather (a) have great sex, (b) have great friends, (c) have great love, and (d) have great creations? For the sake of comparison, let’s assume that you get one […]


3 Key Elements to Successful Relationships

3 Key Elements to Successful Relationships

While spending time with my extended family this past weekend, the question people asked me the most is, “Is there a woman in your life?” I gave the same stock answer I’ve been giving for a while: No, I haven’t made dating a priority since I started Stonemaier Games. However, after seeing the huge family […]


Zappos for Dates

Zappos for Dates

Zappos (and now Amazon) does one of the coolest things for new employees. It’s called “The Offer.” A week or two into an employee’s training program, each new hire is offered one month’s salary…to quit. The idea is that it helps to weed out people who don’t actually want to work at Zappos rather than […]


Something’s Wrong in the Bedroom

Something's Wrong in the Bedroom

Have you ever been hanging out with someone–maybe a significant other, a good friend, or a coworker–and you knew something was wrong, but they kept denying it? No matter how many times you ask, they won’t admit anything’s wrong. You even keep a close eye on them to see if you figure it out, but […]


Dating Naked

A few weeks ago I heard about a new dating show on VH1 called Dating Naked. I don’t watch dating shows, but I like nudity, so I dug deeper into the premise. Basically, the show features a man and a woman who go on a three dates with three different people on a tropical island. […]


Around the World with Bill Murray

Around the World with Bill Murray

Last week there was a video circulating the internet involving a brief appearance by Bill Murray at a random bachelor party. When I saw a link to it, I was expecting to see Bill Murray acting goofy, maybe tell a joke or two, but what he actually said was a brilliant piece of advice about […]


Can You Be in Love with More Than One Person at a Time?

Can You Be in Love with More Than One Person at a Time?

The other day I read a fascinating article about love, and I’ve been thinking about it ever since. It challenges not only the way we think about love, but also unveils the idea that it’s perfectly normal to fall in love with multiple people in a variety of different ways. Just to be clear, the […]


The Promise

The Promise

I recently read an article that moved me to tears and gave me a new appreciation for the bonds of friendship. The article can pretty much be summed up from a paragraph near the beginning paired with one from near the end: “It was weeks before my wedding in 2010, and my four bridesmaids threw […]


The Choice to Stay Together

The Choice to Stay Together

Yesterday was my parents’ 37th anniversary, so I wanted to celebrate the occasion with a little post in honor of them. In particular, I want to honor the choice that they’ve made to stay together after all these years. As an outsider to marriage, I don’t know for sure if this is true, but my […]


The Top 3 Questions to Determine Relationship Compatibility

The Top 3 Questions to Determine Relationship Compatibility

Yesterday on the esteemed Sarah Meets World blog, Sarah mentioned a really interesting tidbit she learned from a number cruncher at the online dating site OkCupid. Apparently the data shows that if two people answer the following 3 questions the same way (doesn’t matter if they answer yes or no), they are 8 times more likely to […]


How to Use Data to Pick Your Spouse

How to Use Data to Pick Your Spouse

Today I stumbled upon a TED talk during lunch about marriage. I’m single right now, so when I saw the title, “What you don’t know about marriage,” I think I was looking for some affirmation that I’m just fine not getting married if that’s how things turn out. What I discovered, though, was a funny […]


What It Means to Have Someone Make You a Better Person

What It Means to Have Someone Make You a Better Person

Although I’m single, while I was home for the holidays, I learned the importance of finding someone who makes you a better person. I’ve always associated that idea–someone making me want to be a better person–with romantic relationships, although I’ve never quite understood why I would possibly need someone to fill that role. Sure, it’s […]


Should You Tell Someone You Care About That They’re Not with the Right Person?

Should You Tell Someone You Care About That They're Not with the Right Person?

The above title is a bit misleading (or incomplete, rather), so let me explain before you jump to the poll: Today I got an interesting e-mail from a college friend who I haven’t seen in a while. She (we’ll call her “Hypothetica”–she’s Greek) has a very close friend–we’ll say “Peter”–who has been dating a girl–“Parker”–for […]


The Eighth Love Language

The Eighth Love Language

It’s been a while since I’ve written about love language, so if you want to catch up on my original entries, they are listed here (in addition to the original 5 love languages): Acts of Service Touch Quality Time Words of Affirmation Gifts Chocolate Quantity Time I also wrote an entry about the 15 workplace […]