Sex Psychology

How to Be a Better Lover

Today is Valentine’s Day, and I’m here to teach you how to be a better lover. But probably not in the way that you’re thinking. I read a fascinating article in the NY Times the other day about love. The article covers a lot of different topics, and I’d highly recommend it. But one point […]


The Psychology of Sex #12: High Risk, High Reward

The Psychology of Sex #12: High Risk, High Reward

If you want to fall in love, put yourself in a risky–even dangerous–situation. I’ve got proof. I read an article the other day about…well, essentially about the psychology of sex. The article started by summarizing a study done involving men who were put on a scary bridge with a female interviewer. One by one the […]


Which Way Does Your Cookie Crumble?

Which Way Does Your Cookie Crumble?

The very last question of my “Perfect Woman” survey (which has now been taken by 347 people) reads as follows: You’re sitting on the couch watching Arrested Development with your boyfriend. As he watches the show, his hands toy with the edges of your breasts, your neck, and your inner thigh. What do you do? […]


Is It Cheating If Your Mind Wanders?

Is It Cheating If Your Mind Wanders?

I recently had a discussion with a few friends about the places your mind is allowed to go during sexual acts with a significant other. Is it cheating–or wrong in some way–for you to think about someone else? Before you jump to your answer, I ask you this: Have you ever thought about someone else […]


Why We Kiss

Why We Kiss

The other day I read a fascinating article on why humans kiss. Personally, I love to kiss. It’s such a fun, passionate gesture of connection. A good kisser can make a relationship just as a bad kisser can break it. Kissing’s a big deal in my book. But kissing doesn’t seem to have much of […]


The Psychology of Sex #7: Match.com

The Psychology of Sex #7: Match.com

Although I’m a completely open person who is comfortable talking about pretty much anything with anyone, there are two circumstances in which I’m exceedingly shy: Initiating a conversation with a woman who is a complete stranger. Walking into a crowded room in which I know very few people. Unfortunately for me, those two areas eliminate […]


The Question of Windfall

Before you read today’s blog, please answer the following question: I think this is a great question about human behavior. The logically “correct” answer is that you’d choose the monthly payments for a total cashflow of $1,200. That’s 20% higher than the $1,000. The odds that you could make a 20% return over the next […]


The Psychology of Sex #6: How to Get Someone to Agree with You

The Psychology of Sex #6: How to Get Someone to Agree with You

I’ve decided to take a break from recommending other blogs for now (on a weekly basis, at least). Helpful hint to other bloggers out there: Take the time to recommend blogs you like from time to time. It helps turn this distant, virtual world into something much more like a real community. Instead, I’d like […]