Last week, I created a survey and posted a link to it on my blog, craigslist, Facebook, and Twitter. The intent of the survey was to determine if there is such thing as the “perfect woman” out there for me–on paper, at least. I thought I’d get somewhere between 15-20 people to respond to the survey–mostly blog readers and Twitter followers.
As of tonight, 133 women have responded to the survey.
Sure, there might be a few men in there, but any men who took the survey and commented on the blog left an IP address in their wake, with which I was able to cancel their responses (other than the IP addresses, I have no idea who took the survey). Also, intriguingly enough, there were several people who took the survey multiple times and “improved” their scores the second time around. I appreciate the effort, ladies, but why? I canceled the duplicate responses. Either way, 133 women! That’s incredible!
I asked a variety of questions, some a bit logistical (height, age, etc.), others digging much deeper into who people really are. Most of those questions were situational in nature, but it wasn’t the actual situation I was interested in–I was more interested in how those answers reflected on the person’s principles, character, and true preferences.
If you haven’t taken the survey, feel free to do so now before I dig deeper into the responses.
Here are some encouraging results (for me in particular):
Here are some less encouraging results:
Some quick clarifications:
Okay, here’s my take on this: If I have a girlfriend (Amy Adams), I probably spend the majority of my social time and energy on her. So if we go to a party where we each know other people, I think it’s a really healthy time to spend the majority of the evening enjoying the company of people who we don’t see all that often. I’d love to catch Amy’s eye a few times over the course of the night, join her in conversations a few times here and there, but for the most part, I don’t need or want Amy by my side in those situations. We’re going home together, so we’ll have quality time then.
As you can see, there are multiple “correct” answers to this question. The most controversy is over my exclusion of “venting to your boyfriend.” This is a tricky one, and I can see how that “wrong” answer kind of makes me look like a jerk. Don’t get me wrong–I’m there for a girlfriend if she needs to talk. But I know from experience that things get rough if I’m the ONLY person my girlfriend talks to about stressful things. Also, this question is about personal responsibility–do you take responsibility for your stress and try to improve your life, or do you just complain about it? That’s the heart of it.
I realized after posting this question that I didn’t actually include the best possible answer for me: Enjoy the touch as you continue to watch the show AND start to tease the guy too. At the heart of this is that most woman I’ve encountered can’t handle a little playful teasing. Their immediate reaction is to start to get it on. But I like teasing, and I like to be teased. And if I intentionally sat down with my girlfriend to watch a show, why not use the show as the time limit for teasing? That way you don’t think I’m going to just tease you and not follow through, and it gives you time to respond to my teasing in a fun way. Has anyone else experienced what I’m talking about? Maybe I’m in the minority here.
Okay, enough with the nitty-gritty. How about the results?
(So, e.g., 42 people [32% of respondents] answered between 11 and 15 questions correctly.)
Let’s focus on the big number: There’s a perfect score out there. As of now, she has not contacted me. If you’re out there, Miss 100%, shoot me an e-mail (firstname.lastname@example.org). I’m just curious, that’s all.
A huge thanks to everyone who participated in this survey. I’ve learned a lot about women by going over the results, and I hope you learned something about me as well. Share any thoughts you have in the comments.