Okay, I’m Back to Being an INTJ

I’ve spent the last month being an ENTJ. It’s exhausting. I’ve been to countless happy hours, film openings, $500-plate dinners, cotillions, mixers, bonfires, parties, after parties, after after parties…

Okay, I’m making that up. But I’ve confirmed that I truly am an INTJ (low I, low N, high T, high J), just as I suspected.

The deciding factor? This website about INTJs. (Kudos to Phuong for the find. And belated kudos to Arianna for the word “decadent” the other day.)

And really, the deciding deciding factor is the list of INTJ pet peeves on that site. They’re spot on:

  • We dislike surprises.
  • We dislike getting gifts, as it burdens us with the need to reciprocate.
  • We hate small talk, gossip, and relationship/people talk. Really anything mundane is beneath us.
  • We get particularly annoyed by attacks on our intelligence, competence, and integrity.
  • We hate it when people try to manipulate us.
  • Insincerity and lying.
  • People interfering with our alone time.
  • People who are chronically late.
  • People who talk incessantly. We will just engage our “nod and smile” autopilot and mentally go somewhere else.
  • People who are stupid, arrogant, opinionated, and/or closed minded.
  • Superficiality (body piercings, pimped out cars, brightly colored anything).
  • Incorrect grammar and word usage.

Yama. That’s me. I could probably find an internal blog link for almost all of those items.

Daily Question: Sometimes I talk to people who are starting to blog, and I offer them some nuggets of wisdom from my experience. I’ve thought about writing a blog entry consisting of all of those nuggets, but would it interest my regular readers? Let me know.

9 thoughts on “Okay, I’m Back to Being an INTJ”

  1. On the daily: No interest to me, but I’m a semi-regular reader, so I’m not sure if I count. I wouldn’t be offended by the entry though, and would probably read it if I showed up that day.

    In general:
    I’m glad you have pet peeves today (yesterday), because I have a pet please from this morning! It happened and I thought, “Oh, I’ll have to tell Jamey about that.” So I was on the bus ride to work, super tired, and the bus driver wasn’t the normal person. But he did a smooth braking job throughout, which makes me happy. Then he was crossing the bridge over the river into downtown and announced the next stop He ended the announcement with, “And it’s TGIF day, so have a great weekend!” That made me happy. 🙂

  2. Still makes you sound like a butt, INTJs sound like unfriendly people and they are actually supposed to be the least compatible with my personality type for friendship. Pity, I’m a pretty cool person.

    Yes you should do a blog entry with nuggets of wisdom, those who are regular readers and don’t have a blog can just be unhappy for that day. Bring on the nuggets!

  3. Hi Jamey. If I’d read that list independent of anything else, I would think, “That sounds like Jamey Stegmaier.”

    Also, Yama is my new favorite word.

  4. As a fellow INTJ, my only words of wisdom are to try to be flexible (which is particularly hard for us).

    But on MBIT types in general, 2 thoughts:
    1) Still sounds like psychological astrology. 75% of those descriptions seem like they could fit all kinds of people.
    2) Do’t let your type define you. Identifing your type, and others’ types is meant to help you understand yourself and others with the intention of increasing effective interactions with others, not give an excuse to retreat within the confines of the type.

    • I really like point 2. I think it’s in human nature to want to let “types” define and describe us, especially if we get to feel unique or rare. But the key is learning from the insights about ourselves these test provide and using those insights to work better with others.

      We have our Myers-Briggs session as a staff tomorrow, so hopefully we’ll focus mostly on those aspects.


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