Questions I’m Considering for an Updated “Perfect Woman” Survey

Now that nearly 400 women have taken my old perfect woman survey and given me some great feedback along the way, I think it’s time I update it. The previous survey was 25 questions; I’d like this one to be closer to 10.

The key difference, though, is that I’d like this to be a dealbreaker survey. As in, without question, a woman would have to get all of the questions “correct” for us to work. For example, I would greatly prefer for a woman to be shorter than me. But is that a dealbreaker? Absolutely not. I could have a very healthy, loving relationship with a woman who is taller than me. So that’s not a dealbreaker question.

On the other hand, if a woman is a smoker, that’s a dealbreaker. No way. Not going to happen.

So here are some questions I’m thinking about using for the survey. I definitely need to pare them down to the true dealbreakers. Do you have any thoughts or feedback about them? I’m truly wide open to suggestions here (although in the end I’ll decide my own dealbreakers, thank you very much!)

Oh, and keep in mind that some of these might be “tests” for personality traits. Like the last one about holding the door open–the heart of that is is that I’m looking for someone who is actively kind to and aware of people around them. It just helps people answer surveys if the questions are situational.

  • Do you read any blogs daily, listen to NPR or the news, or read any informational magazines that make you think and want to share thoughts/ideas?
  • Are you happy?
  • Do you have a creative passion?
  • Are you not spontaneous?
  • Are you looking for your boyfriend to be your running partner?
  • Do you read books for pleasure?
  • Are you flirtatious?
  • Do you have kids?
  • You ask great questions (and have been told that).
  • Are you okay with cats?
  • Do you wear lipstick, foundation, coverup, or heavy eye makeup?
  • Do you smoke?
  • Do you lead a healthy lifestyle (physically)?
  • If we’re having a serious discussion and I say that I need some time to process my thoughts, will you give me that time even if it means waiting until the next day to hear my thoughts?
  • Grammar question
  • Are you kind, good, and aware of those around you?
  • Do you have irreconcilable rules about who you can or cannot date based on race or religion? (i.e., “I would not consider dating someone in X religion without knowing anything else about that person.”)
  • Is your home really messy?
  • Do you really love going to crowded events?
  • If you wrote a screenplay about your life, would it be a comedy, a drama, a tragedy, or a musical?
  • Do you often hold the door open for the person behind you?