How Do You Like to Be Rejected?

Sites like and OkCupid thrive on success stories, of which there are plenty. But really, for every couple that meets on Match, there are dozens–if not hundreds–of ignored emails and outright rejections.

Online dating way more about rejection than acceptance.

Which, in a way, is great. No one likes being rejected, but if you learn to deal with rejection in a healthy way, it will make you more likely to enter high-risk, high-reward situations.

We all have different ways we like to be rejected. However, sites like Match leave people guessing. I propose that my improved remove guessing from the equation and make it part of any initial email to someone new. See below:

 Note that you’re simply stating a preference in those checkboxes. If Amy Adams really wants to tell me exactly why she’s not interested in me (probably the distance), she can do so against my better wishes.

I’m curious, if you were/are on an online dating site, what is your preferred way to be rejected after an initial email?

4 thoughts on “How Do You Like to Be Rejected?”

    • Emails written like that don’t generally get a response from me. Unless the guy is gorgeous…in that case I may give him one more try to redeem himself. 🙂


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