My Greatest Fear #47: Forgetting to Go Invisible After Finishing an Instant-Message Conversation

tan-zebra-fbWho would have thought I’d have 47 greatest fears? That can’t be good.

I don’t like instant message for the same reason I don’t like text conversations: They end up feeling like a long series of interruptions. Occasionally I’ll chat with someone online via instant message or let a text conversation happen, and it’s not the end of the world. In fact, sometimes it’s better than a series of 1-line e-mails. But at least with those e-mails I can’t reply at my own convenience. Instant messages require immediate attention.

Thus my default setting for Facebook, Google, and Skype is invisible.

The other day I logged into Google Hangouts to be interviewed by a Kickstarter vlogger. Within second of logging in, someone instant messaged me, and we chatted for a few minutes while I waited. It was fine.

After the interview, I thought I closed out of Google Hangouts, but apparently Chrome usurped me and left me logged in. So other people started instant messaging me.

That’s where the greatest fear kicks in. Because once someone sees you’re online and messages you, you can’t log out right away–they’ll know you saw them! It’s like answering the phone and hanging up as soon as the person says, “Hi Jamey!” They know you heard them!

So when this happens, I panic. The person knows. They know everything. And there is no escape.

I did the only logical thing: I went off the grid. I smashed my computer to bits, starting with the monitor, because in TVs and movies that’s what people do when they want to destroy the information inside a computer. I cut all the cards in my wallet in half and dropped them in different trash cans around the city.

Next, I got that retinal surgery that Tom Cruise got in Minority Report, and I had my fingerprints surgically replaced with Kim Kardashian’s fingerprints (they’re heavily airbrushed). I drove my car into the Mississippi and used cash to buy a new vehicle (an innocuous Segway). Also, I dyed Biddy and Walter so they look like zebra cats (they chose the animal).

Last, I drove my Segway to the houses of the people who had instant messaged me, and I hypnotized them to forget I had ever been visible on instant message.

The transformation was complete. Now no one would ever know I had ignored them online. Totally worth it.

2 thoughts on “My Greatest Fear #47: Forgetting to Go Invisible After Finishing an Instant-Message Conversation”

  1. I never worry about it. If the data plan on my phone is active, I show up as online, if people message me, I get to it when I see it and have a moment. I tend to assume that everyone else uses theirs the same way, so getting Ignored is not even a thought that answers my head.


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