Sex vs. Friends vs. Love vs. Creations
I’m using compatibility questions from the dating site OkCupid for blog fodder. Here’s today’s question:
If you could only choose one of the following, would you rather (a) have great sex, (b) have great friends, (c) have great love, and (d) have great creations?
For the sake of comparison, let’s assume that you get one great thing out of those four options, and the rest are subpar.
This question seemed pretty innocuous at first, but then I realized that I didn’t have a gut answer. So I started thinking about each of the options:
- Have great sex: Great sex is fantastic, yes. But is it worth giving up great friends, great love, and great creations? Just in terms of time, sex takes up by far the least of those options.
- Have great friends: This definitely jumps out as a top pick. Not only do great friends make my life so much better than it would be without them, but I feel like I’m a better person (for myself and for the world) because of my friends.
- Have great love: All you need is love, right? I’m going to assume this refers to romantic love (platonic love would fit into the “friends” category). While this is certainly something I’d like to have and I’ve enjoyed the short bursts of love I’ve felt over the years, some of my happiest days, weeks, months, and years have been without any form of romantic love.
- Have great creations: This is perhaps the toughest. I simply can’t imagine a life without the ability to create. But I guess the question isn’t suggesting that I can’t create stuff–it’s saying that I’m not good at creating stuff. Which I’m perfectly fine with. Obviously I want to create things that are great, but I wouldn’t give up great friendships just to be great at creating.
So my answer is now clear: I choose great friends.
What do you choose and why?