What’s the Most Considerate Wedding You’ve Attended?
My rough estimate is that I’ve attended around 20-25 weddings in my life (none of them my own). Many of them have been beautiful, memorable experiences. Some are by the book; others are carefully customized from start to finish by the couple.
As a guest at these weddings, I’ve enjoyed almost all of them on some level. Yes, wedding receptions aren’t really my thing (though having a date makes a big difference), but I enjoy professions of love and good food. It’s also neat to see the types of people the couple surrounds themselves with.
All of that said, this weekend I attended a wedding that I think might be the most considerately planned and executed wedding I’ve ever attended. Even though it was very much about the newlyweds, it seems like they made very specific, intentional decisions to ensure their guests had a good time, which I thought was really special:
- Hotel shuttles. I wasn’t staying at the hotel, but for those who did, they were transported to and from the venue via shuttles so they didn’t have to worry about directions (the wedding was in rural Virginia) or limiting their alcohol intake.
- The ceremony was only 20 minutes long. Truly, I have no judgment against long ceremonies. But I have to say it was really nice to filter out everything except the couple themselves. There was a short talk about the couple, they exchanged vows, they kissed, and we were done.
- Drinks and appetizers during the photo gap: Photos of the couple and family were taken immediately after the ceremony. Right nearby were two open bars and servers handing out fresh appetizers. I like that this all happened in the same place.
- The reception was at the same venue. It’s always nice when you don’t need to drive from the ceremony to the reception. This wedding was at a beautiful country event space where the reception building was a short walk from the ceremony building.
- The wedding party (brides and bridesmaids) were introduced as a group, not individually. This was awesome. So much more efficient than introducing everyone in the wedding party.
- Speeches had time limits. I’m not sure what the time limit was, but a few of the speech givers mentioned a time limit. Sometimes the speeches can get out of hand. 🙂
- Bite-size desserts and an ice cream truck. I love wedding desserts, and I really have no complaints about any version of dessert that I’m served at a wedding. But it was a really nice touch to have a table set up with bite-size desserts, as it meant people could easily come and go as they pleased, eating the exact amount they wanted with one hand. And on top of that there was an ice cream truck!
I’m curious if you’ve noticed any guest-centric touches at weddings you’ve attended (or even your own wedding). I’d love to hear about them in the comments.