Do You Ever Feel Like You Need a Vacation After Your Vacation?

It feels like the vast majority of my vacations over the last few years have been focused on people: Seeing family for the holidays, spending time with my parents during my dad’s battle against cancer, playing games with friends and strangers, and most recently, attending a family reunion at the beach with 35 people.

Ironically, I’m an introvert. I love spending time with my family and friends, but I’m more energized in general by time alone.

So I tried something–organically, not by plan–at the family reunion this year. I see these people all together every other year, so usually at the family reunion I feel like I should always be where the most people are. Maximize the time together!

But then I get home at the end of the week and I’m completely wiped out. Perhaps you’ve felt that way after a vacation, whether it’s for family, an event, or a specific destination.

To counter that possibility, this year I simply relaxed. I didn’t hunt down the most populated activity at any given time. Sometimes I worked for hours; there was an evening when Megan and I just watched a TV show instead of playing a big party game.

It was amazing–for once, it really felt like a vacation (yes, working to me when I wasn’t expecting to work is a vacation for me!). And I still had plenty of quality time with my family. Except for our big nightly dinners, more of that time was in smaller groups. I returned to St. Louis feeling refreshed.

Have you ever tweaked your vacation methods to better fit your personality and to ensure that you weren’t utterly exhausted at the end? Let me know what you’ve tried!

5 thoughts on “Do You Ever Feel Like You Need a Vacation After Your Vacation?”

  1. After a vacation, I tend to hop right back into work. Fly back Monday, back to work at 8am Tuesday. I feel the lack of energy when I go back and it takes time get back my energy. For the next few weeks, I could use a vacation after a vacation 😂

    • That’s intense! Have you ever tried padding it? Like, get back from vacation on Saturday so you have Sunday to decompress before going back to work?

      • There are many factors I look at. I tend to travel on weekdays since flights are usually cheaper. So if I’m sitting around on a weekday, I don’t think it’s a good way to spend time and can be working instead. I am trying to get better at it, mental health is always good. Instead of 1 or 2 long vacations, I’m aiming for 4 or 5 smaller vacations.

  2. The goal of vacation and retirement is to get to the place where you are both always working, and always “relaxing”. This is a way to benifit from the law of the people. As long as you actually work for X amount of time, your vacation is considered a business trip. Check out the book “Tax Free Wealth” for more insights. I am working towards this. Playing and designing games, trying new food, interacting with other people (sales) is my vacation and dream job all in one. Hope to see a SM 100 year plan in the future to see that you do hope to keep SM going for that long 🤘

  3. Jamey,

    Always! When I was in the military, especially stationed overseas, the flight back always proved tiring, so I learned rather quickly to extend my “vacation” by 1-2 days depending on the length of time I was away from home. That gave me time for laundry, shopping, and a host of other chores that I need to accomplish before heading back to work.



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