Happy Adoption Day 2023!

42 years ago, I was granted the incredible gift of not just two, but four parents: Two biological parents who were no longer dating and just weren’t ready to raise a child, and two parents who chose me as their first child.

I was 3 days old at the time, so I don’t remember any of this. But I’m eternally grateful for the choices made by my biological mother and my parents. I have my life because of those choices.

This is the first adoption day for me without my dad, which is kind of hard for me to comprehend. He was there at the beginning, with his big ’80s mustache and a desire to be a father. Cancer had decreased the odds that he could bear children, and it was cancer that got him in the end, but that didn’t stop him from choosing me (and also having my brother and sister biologically). I miss you, Dad.

If you’re adopted too, your experience may be similar to mine or it might be quite different. I’m fortunate that my parents were always transparent about my origins, not something to hide and be revealed on a specific day. I’m also lucky that I had the option to connect with my biological mother whenever I wanted (I waited until I was in college), and we still correspond from time to time.

Regardless of your experience, if you’re adopted too, I hope it’s okay if I celebrate my kinship with you today. It’s perfectly normal that we’re adopted–there’s absolutely no stigma in it–but it’s also something special and unique that we share. I like how I said it in my post a few years ago:

“Old and young, men and women, humans and cats…your story is different than mine, but we share a common bond. It’s a badge of honor for me to share that bond with you.”

Happy adoption day!

10 thoughts on “Happy Adoption Day 2023!”

  1. Happy Adoption Day Jamey! I am half-adopted, my biological parts donor left town after I was born, but my dad met mom a couple of years later, married her, and happily adopted me!

  2. Happy Adoption Day! Lots of of love to you, as you celebrate an amazing choice your dad made with your mom, and as you remember him.

  3. Happy Adoption Day! What an incredible sliding doors moment. It must be interesting to think what your life would have been like if you hadn’t been adopted. It’s hard to imagine your life being better than the life you have now. It’s safe to say that all four of your parents each made a decision that led to the greatest outcome.

    It’s interesting that many non-traditional family structures result in good childhood outcomes. I read a study recently that found that, “Children with same-sex parents are more likely to have high socioeconomic status and receive substantial parental investment from highly committed parents.” Children in these non-traditional family structures are more likely to be given more attention and resources, because their parents have typically had a more difficult path to parenthood.

    “I took the road less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.” – Robert Frost

    • Thanks for sharing, Steve. That’s fascinating (and it makes perfect sense) about how parents who had to actively strive to choose to be parents over a prolonged period of time might give the child/children they eventually have more attention and resources. I wonder if part of that is simply the time factor: For many people, if they have kids at age 30 instead of age 20, they probably have more financial stability at the later age.

      • Yeah I think this would definitely be true.

        P.S. Can’t wait for you to see the photo of my slightly less-traditional pet that I sent through (her names Olive). Chickens are almost as good family members as cats 🙂


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