Advice from 90-Year-Olds (#6-10)

Last week I started going through some advice from 90-year-olds, as compiled by Sahil Bloom, to share my thoughts. (This post got delayed a few days due to technical issues.)

#1-5 post

#6: Never raise your voice, except for at a ballgame.

I’m someone who really does not like to raise my voice, nor do I like yelling or loud noises…but I’m pretty sure there are situations other than sports when it’s advised to raise your voice. If you are in trouble and need help, please do not hesitate to raise your voice as high as it will go.

#7: Do one good deed every single day, but never tell anyone about it.

I love the idea of striving to share love, kindness, and generosity every day. I also like the idea of performing those acts of kindness simply because, not for fame or attention. However, I think altruism is contagious, and you might be doing the world a disservice by hiding it. If you’re doing something that others could replicate (or that you could do even more effectively if you could learn from others), why not share it from time to time?

#8: Time doesn’t heal anything when it comes to relationships.

This is a tough one. Overall, I agree that relationships require work, and the things that go unsaid often remain in the messy stew that is our subconscious. Yet time is kind of miraculous in that it gives us a chance to calm down, to not react in the heat of the moment, and to realize that some things matter a lot less than we think.

#9: Find the things that make your eyes light up. Do more of those.

Yes, absolutely. My only addition is that it’s worth trying most things once (or twice), as I’ve been surprised to discover that some of the activities, experiences, and hobbies that make my eyes light up are things I had to go out of my way to try.

#10: Always remind yourself that your track record for making it through your bad days is perfect.

This is fine. I’m not entirely sure what to learn from this. It seems like the type of thing you might try to tell yourself when you’re in the middle of a bad day and you’re feeling like it will never end, but your mileage may vary in the moment. I prefer, “This too shall pass.” Because time actually does heal some things. 🙂

This was a rough batch compared to 1-5. We’ll see what 11-15 hold for us later. What do you think of these as they apply to your life?

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