relationships

Pet Peeve #71: Realizing You Do Your Own Pet Peeve

I recently had my weekly phone call with my parents, and we talked a little about my girlfriend. I could feel myself cringing a bit through the conversation, eager to change the topic. It wasn’t anything about Megan; rather, this is how I’ve always been with my parents and romantic relationships. Afterwards, I thought about […]


What I Thought I Wanted in a Woman 9 Years Ago (and What Has Changed)

Nine years ago, I was 29 years old, and I was in full dating mode. I had ended two back-to-back, long-term relationships with great women, and after participating in several online dating sites, I thought I figured out exactly what I wanted in a woman. So I did what anyone would do: I created a […]


Childhood Sweethearts in Movies

Childhood Sweethearts in Movies

Over the last few days I watched “Always Be My Maybe,” the new romantic comedy on Netflix. I wouldn’t say it’s quite up to the recent standard of Netflix rom coms, but I’m happy they keep making them, and there’s one very funny sequence that’s worth the entire movie (I won’t spoil that part). The movie starts […]


Have You Tried Bumble?

Have You Tried Bumble?

My online dating days ended many years ago when I made my company my greatest love, but I enjoyed my experiences with Match and OkCupid. This was before Tinder was a thing (or at least before I was aware of it). In recent years, I had heard of Tinder’s competitor, Bumble, but I wasn’t aware […]


Love, Doubt, and Forever (The Bachelor Saga Continues)

Love, Doubt, and Forever (The Bachelor Saga Continues)

A few weeks ago, I watched and commented on an episode of The Bachelor. I’ve continued to tune since then, fast forwarding through decent chunks of each 2-hour episode, but still getting wrapped up in the story. Last night’s episode packed an emotional punch, though I have some thoughts to share on a conversation that […]


One More Relationship Question

One More Relationship Question

Okay, this one is a little more personal, but the poll is anonymous, and let me explain a little first. Earlier this year, I watched a delightful movie called Leap Year. It stars my beloved Amy Adams and probably some other people. There’s a scene in the movie where some couples (and a few people […]


How Often Do You Say Your Significant Other’s Real Name?

How Often Do You Say Your Significant Other's Real Name?

I’ve been single for a long time, but I’m still fascinated by relationships, and I sometimes reminisce about mine. I may have even written about this topic in the past. In both of my long-term relationships, we had pet names for each other. I’m not sure how or why, but once it started, we never […]


Black Mirror and Perfect Matches

Black Mirror and Perfect Matches

Tonight I watched “Hang the DJ,” a fourth-season episode of Black Mirror that several people have asked me about. This will be a spoiler-free post in terms of plot, but not theme. (If you want a more in-depth, spoilery perspective on this episode, I recommend this article.) The episode is all about love and relationships. […]


A Dating App About What You Hate?

A Dating App About What You Hate?

I recently saw a pitch on Shark Tank for a really interesting dating app. The concept is contrary to the way I use social media and even the way I think about relationships, but I still think it’s pretty clever. The app is called Hater. Like other dating apps, it uses a series of questions […]


How Do You Help a Friend If You Stumble Across Them While They’re on a Date?

How Do You Help a Friend If You Stumble Across Them While They're on a Date?

It was a scene out of a sitcom: On Sunday, 6 friends and I made our way to a local restaurant for dinner. While we were en route, one person mentioned that his roommate–another friend of ours–was on a date at that exact restaurant. We didn’t want to disturb our friend (I’ll call him “Justin”), […]


Is an AI Relationship Real?

Is an AI Relationship Real?

This week I have several questions about the future, each inspired by Blade Runner 2049, which I saw on Saturday (very minor spoilers to follow). It’s an odd case where I liked the ideas presented by the movie more than the movie itself–it’s fine, but just not something I fell in love with. I did, […]


Have You Ever Competed for a Lover Like a Bird?

Have You Ever Competed for a Lover Like a Bird?

In romantic comedies and sitcoms, one trope I’ve never understood is when two guys compete for the same girl. Now, I understand what it’s like to pursue the affections of a woman while she’s also being pursued by someone else. We can’t help what we feel. The part I can’t comprehend is the primal aspect of competition: […]


A First Date Where All You Do Is Smell Each Other

A First Date Where All You Do Is Smell Each Other

I’ve never tried speed dating. The idea of it is interesting, but I want a fast way of seeing if someone intrigues me, I’ll use an online dating site instead. But I watched a video the other day about something called “sensory speed dating,” and it’s a really interesting concept. It combines standard speed dating–spend a […]


What’s Your Type of Crazy?

I took a walk with an old friend the other day. I don’t talk many walks simply for the purpose of walking and talking, but it was rather nice. A good way to catch up. He mentioned a really interesting article that he discovered this summer. The core concept is it recommends that people at […]


3 Big Ways to Improve Your Friendships Today

3 Big Ways to Improve Your Friendships Today

Years ago I stumbled upon a fascinating list of attributes related to happy, long-lasting marriages. At the top of the list were two fascinating–and unexpected–traits that indicate you’ll have a successful marriage: When you laugh at something you’re watching or reading and your spouse responds with interest. If you and your spouse go to a […]


What’s Your Facebook Friend Policy?

What's Your Facebook Friend Policy?

Lately I’ve been getting a lot of Facebook friend requests. This is most likely due to the visibility of my Kickstarter project, but I think most people on Facebook probably get a few Facebook requests every month. At least. For a long time now, even before all the board game stuff happened, my personal policy […]


The End of Dating

The End of Dating

Okay, this has to be a sign. Two years ago, I attended a big hot air balloon glow in St. Louis with my parents, who were visiting from out of town. I had a great time, and I swore to myself that the next year I would return with a date, because it seems like […]


What Should You Do If the Person You Like Is Already Dating Someone?

What Should You Do If the Person You Like Is Already Dating Someone?

I was talking to a friend from back home recently about some love troubles he’s been having, and I didn’t have great advice for him at the time, so I wanted to talk out the situation here in the blog. For the purposes of this entry, I’m talking about a guy liking a girl, but […]


The Dilemma of Scent

The Dilemma of Scent

Lately I’ve been turning to the zany questions on OkCupid for blog fodder from time to time. Today is one of those times. The question: If you bought your partner perfume or cologne as a gift, would you buy them a scent they love or a scent you love? I feel like this is one of those […]


Would You Let Someone Else Choose Your Bedtime Attire?

Would You Let Someone Else Choose Your Bedtime Attire?

Lately I’ve been using compatibility questions from the dating site OkCupid for blog fodder. Here’s today’s question: Would you allow your partner to decide what you wear to bed? The way I read this question (this might be incorrect, it’s it’s how I’m looking at it) for me is: Would I allow a girlfriend to tell […]


Sex vs. Friends vs. Love vs. Creations

Sex vs. Friends vs. Love vs. Creations

I’m using compatibility questions from the dating site OkCupid for blog fodder. Here’s today’s question: If you could only choose one of the following, would you rather (a) have great sex, (b) have great friends, (c) have great love, and (d) have great creations? For the sake of comparison, let’s assume that you get one […]


3 Key Elements to Successful Relationships

3 Key Elements to Successful Relationships

While spending time with my extended family this past weekend, the question people asked me the most is, “Is there a woman in your life?” I gave the same stock answer I’ve been giving for a while: No, I haven’t made dating a priority since I started Stonemaier Games. However, after seeing the huge family […]


Zappos for Dates

Zappos for Dates

Zappos (and now Amazon) does one of the coolest things for new employees. It’s called “The Offer.” A week or two into an employee’s training program, each new hire is offered one month’s salary…to quit. The idea is that it helps to weed out people who don’t actually want to work at Zappos rather than […]


Something’s Wrong in the Bedroom

Something's Wrong in the Bedroom

Have you ever been hanging out with someone–maybe a significant other, a good friend, or a coworker–and you knew something was wrong, but they kept denying it? No matter how many times you ask, they won’t admit anything’s wrong. You even keep a close eye on them to see if you figure it out, but […]