relationships

Dating Naked

A few weeks ago I heard about a new dating show on VH1 called Dating Naked. I don’t watch dating shows, but I like nudity, so I dug deeper into the premise. Basically, the show features a man and a woman who go on a three dates with three different people on a tropical island. […]


Around the World with Bill Murray

Around the World with Bill Murray

Last week there was a video circulating the internet involving a brief appearance by Bill Murray at a random bachelor party. When I saw a link to it, I was expecting to see Bill Murray acting goofy, maybe tell a joke or two, but what he actually said was a brilliant piece of advice about […]


Can You Be in Love with More Than One Person at a Time?

Can You Be in Love with More Than One Person at a Time?

The other day I read a fascinating article about love, and I’ve been thinking about it ever since. It challenges not only the way we think about love, but also unveils the idea that it’s perfectly normal to fall in love with multiple people in a variety of different ways. Just to be clear, the […]


The Promise

The Promise

I recently read an article that moved me to tears and gave me a new appreciation for the bonds of friendship. The article can pretty much be summed up from a paragraph near the beginning paired with one from near the end: “It was weeks before my wedding in 2010, and my four bridesmaids threw […]


The Choice to Stay Together

The Choice to Stay Together

Yesterday was my parents’ 37th anniversary, so I wanted to celebrate the occasion with a little post in honor of them. In particular, I want to honor the choice that they’ve made to stay together after all these years. As an outsider to marriage, I don’t know for sure if this is true, but my […]


The Top 3 Questions to Determine Relationship Compatibility

The Top 3 Questions to Determine Relationship Compatibility

Yesterday on the esteemed Sarah Meets World blog, Sarah mentioned a really interesting tidbit she learned from a number cruncher at the online dating site OkCupid. Apparently the data shows that if two people answer the following 3 questions the same way (doesn’t matter if they answer yes or no), they are 8 times more likely to […]


How to Use Data to Pick Your Spouse

How to Use Data to Pick Your Spouse

Today I stumbled upon a TED talk during lunch about marriage. I’m single right now, so when I saw the title, “What you don’t know about marriage,” I think I was looking for some affirmation that I’m just fine not getting married if that’s how things turn out. What I discovered, though, was a funny […]


What It Means to Have Someone Make You a Better Person

What It Means to Have Someone Make You a Better Person

Although I’m single, while I was home for the holidays, I learned the importance of finding someone who makes you a better person. I’ve always associated that idea–someone making me want to be a better person–with romantic relationships, although I’ve never quite understood why I would possibly need someone to fill that role. Sure, it’s […]


Should You Tell Someone You Care About That They’re Not with the Right Person?

Should You Tell Someone You Care About That They're Not with the Right Person?

The above title is a bit misleading (or incomplete, rather), so let me explain before you jump to the poll: Today I got an interesting e-mail from a college friend who I haven’t seen in a while. She (we’ll call her “Hypothetica”–she’s Greek) has a very close friend–we’ll say “Peter”–who has been dating a girl–“Parker”–for […]


The Eighth Love Language

The Eighth Love Language

It’s been a while since I’ve written about love language, so if you want to catch up on my original entries, they are listed here (in addition to the original 5 love languages): Acts of Service Touch Quality Time Words of Affirmation Gifts Chocolate Quantity Time I also wrote an entry about the 15 workplace […]


9 Tips for Better Communication Between Introverts, Extroverts, Thinkers, and Feelers

9 Tips for Better Communication Between Introverts, Extroverts, Thinkers, and Feelers

Today at our staff bonding day, one of my coworkers ran a great activity involving our Myers-Briggs personality assessments in regards to communication. As an introverted thinker, I found the activity to be really helpful. First we broke into two groups–introverts and extroverts–and brainstormed helpful and unhelpful communication tactics. Needless to say, one group was […]


Dustin Hoffman Suprises Me with an Insight About Women (and People)

Dustin Hoffman Suprises Me with an Insight About Women (and People)

The other day a video clip of Dustin Hoffman talking about the movie Tootsie went viral. At first I didn’t pay any attention to it, as I haven’t seen the movie. But I guess it reached a critical mass of people sharing it, so I took a look. I was genuinely surprised and moved by […]


10 Ways I Rock My Relationships

10 Ways I Rock My Relationships

Yesterday I wrote a post called “10 Ways I Blew My Relationships.” A friend suggested to me that I counter it with a post about how I’ve rocked (in a good way) my relationships, and I thought it would be a nice flip side to yesterday’s entry. Perhaps you can use this entry as a […]


10 Ways I Blew My Relationships

10 Ways I Blew My Relationships

I’ve been single for a while now. My post-college dating history includes a 3.5-year relationship with a woman who moved in with me for a while, a 1-year long distance relationship….and then lots and lots of dates over the last 4 years. Recently I read a blog entry called 16 Ways I Blew My Marriage […]


How to Let Strangers Decide If You Should Get a Vasectomy

How to Let Strangers Decide If You Should Get a Vasectomy

Way back in 2008, I wrote a blog entry called, I Own That Guy’s Arm. In it I proposed that I launch an IPO for myself, letting investors purchase shares in me and have a say in the choices I make on a daily basis. The benefit for the investors is that they could make a […]


Do You Try to Win Conversations?

Do You Try to Win Conversations?

Conversations aren’t battlefields. There aren’t winners and losers. But that doesn’t stop us from trying. Today I was having a conversation over e-mail with a few colleagues about an issue that arose at work. There were many different sides to the story, several layers of miscommunication, and dropped balls by several people. Overall, we were […]


Serial Dater or Serial Killer?

Serial Dater or Serial Killer?

If you’re a guy who has tried online dating, I almost guarantee that you’ve probably had a conversation like this by text or e-mail before the first date: YOU: Would you like to meet up for drinks sometime this week? HER: Sure, I’m free Thursday. YOU: Perfect. Do you want to meet there, or should […]


Love, Fights, and The Office

Note: This contains spoilers for tonight’s episode of The Office. If you don’t watch the show, I think you can still connect to what I’m going to say below about relationships. This has been a weird and interesting final season of The Office. The boss has been gone for almost the entire season, Oscar had an affair […]


A Guaranteed Soulmate

I just finished watching a really interesting romantic comedy with a slight sci-fi twist (keep reading–it’s very slight!) that posed some great questions that I will now pose for you. And myself. Because I write this blog. The movie, TiMer, presents the idea that (a) every person has exactly one soulmate, (b) every pair of […]


Mars vs. Venus: Can Workplace Romance Work?

Mars vs. Venus: Can Workplace Romance Work?

Today I have the latest in the long-running, multi-contributor series called “Mars vs. Venus.” In these posts we explore a topic (usually relationships) from the male angle (mine) and the female angle (in this case, Katy’s). We do not read each other’s posts in advance, so I’m just as curious as you are to read […]


Relationships Are Just Like Soccer Cleats: A Life Lesson from My Father

Relationships Are Just Like Soccer Cleats: A Life Lesson from My Father

The other day I noticed that a pair of my dress shoes had some deep scuff marks on the front edge. If I didn’t know any better, I might have thought about buying a new pair of shoes. That’s what we do, right? Something gets old, so we throw it out and buy something new. […]


Can Introverts Love Extroverts?

Can Introverts Love Extroverts?

A friend posed this question to me today. I had to ask for clarification–I’m sure many introverts fall in love with extroverts, and vice versa. She clarified that she is curious about whether or not introverts can show their love to extroverts. Can introverts–those who typically need a lot of time by themselves to re-energize, […]


How to Write an Even More Perfect Online Dating Profile

How to Write an Even More Perfect Online Dating Profile

Earlier this year I wrote an entry called How to Write the Perfect Online Dating Profile, and it’s been one of the most well-read entries on the blog since then. Recently I decided to start offering profile rewrites for people for a $39 fee, or free for a temporary amount of time. A few people–all […]


You Should Go on a Bookstore Date

You Should Go on a Bookstore Date

Note: I don’t go into details about dates on this blog. Except for the really, really, really, really bad ones (yes, those are four different links). And even those I wait for months to share. On today’s entry, I’m going to talk about a recent date, but only in the context of this date as a […]