Please Don’t Hit Me

fightclub1One of my recent mid-afternoon vices is to watch a few YouTube clips from Late Night with Seth Meyers. A few days ago, Hugh Jackman made an appearance on the show. While I think Jackman is awesome, I didn’t like one of the things he talked about. Unfortunately it’s related to Jennifer Lawrence, who I also think is awesome.

On the set of X-Men, Lawerence started a game (a game that somehow already exists) where if you hold your hand in a certain way below your hip, you get to punch anyone who looks at your hand. If you hold your hand above your hip by accident, you get punched.

So when Seth Meyers is talking about this to Jackman, Meyers accidentally held his hand above his hip, and Jackman says that he has to hit him now. And he does!

I have to say, this is one of the stupidest things I’ve ever heard. It’s something straight out of middle school, and even back then it didn’t make any sense. There’s no rule that says you have to hit someone. That’s simply not a thing.

The great debate for me after watching that was, “If I was on the set of X-Men with Jennifer Lawrence, would I somehow end up playing this stupid game with her? It would be hard to say no to Jennifer Lawrence.” I sure hope I wouldn’t.

A few days later I saw a clip of Shia Labeouf talking about how the male cast members of Fury would get in fist fights at night. For fun. To bond with one another.

Again, why? How is that a thing? Of course, I’m still a little torn, because Brad Pitt was one of the actors who was part of that fight club, and Fight Club with Brad Pitt is one of my favorite movies…but still. Since when does punching one another solve or help anything.

However, I didn’t write this blog entry after watching those clips. I wrote it after watching New Girl tonight (I’m a few days behind). In this week’s episode, the guys solve problems by punching one another, and they teach the girls to solve their problems the same way.

Call me crazy, but there is no situation where I ever want to punch or be punched, nor will that ever make anything better. If we somehow have an issue between us, punching each other is the last way to make it better.

You tell me: Have you ever solved a problem by punching someone or being punched? Is it ever a good thing? Does it bring us closer together as humans to play games where we punch each other?

Whatever your answer is, please don’t punch me. I don’t want that.

9 thoughts on “Please Don’t Hit Me”

  1. I’ve definitely engaged in “hitting” games before. During the right circumstances and with the right people it can be fun. It does sound silly to type it out though. I’ve never hit someone with malice in my life, and never hit someone to hurt them. But yeah, I’ve played stupid games that involve arm punches and such, and think back on those times fondly. It’s been a few years though (it ended in my mid twenties) and I don’t have a real desire to do it again. Maybe age changes things? And maybe celebrities have more of a “party” atmosphere throughout adulthood. Either way, I say if it’s consensual, people should do what they want.

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    • Dylan: Yeah, it’s the “consensual” part that I have my hesitations about. In the clip, Jackman just hits Meyers because he “has to.” It reminds me of St. Patrick’s Day as a kid–if you didn’t wear great, you got hit or pinched because, well, that’s the rule. It came across more as bullying than an act of fun and bonding. Not that it’s necessarily the case for adults who play that game… Either way, please don’t hit me.

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  2. Watching this week’s New Girl made me cringe, because the “punching it out” method doesn’t seem like it would be helpful at all, and violence should never be the answer (but they did get it right describing the passive aggressive nature of girl fights).

    When I was a kid my brother thought it was hilarious to play a game any time we were in the car that involved punching another passenger on the arm (usually me) whenever he would see a VW Bug– the “rule” was you had to see the car and be the first one to say “slug bug.” The biggest problem I had with this game is that our grandparents lived across the street from a VW collector and we went to our grandparents’ house every day after school, so for a while every day after school I dreaded the inevitable arm punch I knew was likely coming.

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  3. First rule of fight club….lol. First of all, I cannot take JLaw seriously. She’s a great actress but as soon as she’s interviewed, my brain hurts. Anyhow, yes, these games are outrageous, etc; however, if they consent well, so be it.

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  4. I took debate and drama in high school but found myself in the construction industry after graduation. I soon realized that there were different cultures between the alpha male and well, myself. I would take $150 VGA graphics programming books to work to read on lunch break and find those books power nailed to a wall. I soon learned to present myself in a way that discouraged that.

    Fast forward 30 years and I find it difficult to function in an office because I carry myself like an alpha male. There were many occasions in those 30 years where I had adjusted a few bad attitudes using physical force. But, I hated it. I still do. It is simply the language they understand. It’s not like I could explain the overuse of the hypothalamus was responsible for their increased aggression and subsequently affect a behavioral change. Reason is useless. Dissuasion is the only effective means of communication when conflict arises with their mindset.

    So my opinion about pugilism is one of controlled responses. I think it’s important to be formidable when necessary yet as gentle as you can be in any given situation.

    As far as childish games that use violence, I think it’s a way to bridge the cognitive dissonance in our own minds. It’s a way to define violence as acceptable in some situations. With that reasoning, one has the logical scaffolding to justify violence in other situations.

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    • Dave: Thank you for this thought-provoking and insightful comment. That’s really interesting, and I can certainly appreciate the need to adapt and speak the language of the people you find yourself with. Thank you for sharing!

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