Pet Please #119: When You Remember a Friend’s Preferred Physical Greeting

A few weeks ago, I was at a meetup when a friend came over to say hi. I stood up and extended my hand, and at the same time he opened his arms into hug formation. Of course hug trumps handshake, and handshake looks a little silly when a hug is being offered.

A week later, I happened to be going to a dinner party at this same friend’s house. This time I remembered his preferred physical greeting, so instead of holding out my hand, I went right into hug mode. Much less awkward.

For some reason this always feels like a win to me. It’s part remembering what someone else likes and connecting with a fellow human on that level, and it’s part avoidance of awkwardness.

Have you experienced this with any of your friends? Perhaps someone who has a very specific way of greeting people that just happens to be different than your default mode?