Women of the world, picture this scenario: You go on a first date with a guy. (I am not this guy. This is a hypothetical guy. Think of the last guy you went on a date with who you didn’t ask for a second date. Okay, maybe I’m that guy.) He’s nice, funny, smart. He’s … Read more
The very last question of my “Perfect Woman” survey (which has now been taken by 347 people) reads as follows: You’re sitting on the couch watching Arrested Development with your boyfriend. As he watches the show, his hands toy with the edges of your breasts, your neck, and your inner thigh. What do you do? … Read more
The way people choose to express their affection for each other in public is fascinating to me. It’s completely different than physical affection in private, because with PDA, you’re walking a fine line between social norms and personal intimacy. I’ve seen all kinds of PDA. I’ve seen a woman in Paris pin her man against … Read more
I was talking with two good married friends the other day, both of whom I consider extremely moral, considerate people. They were talking about something that had been said in confidence to the husband (we’ll call him Bert), and he had shared it in confidence to his wife (we’ll call her Lisa). This type of … Read more
On 30 Rock this week, there was a line that both made me laugh out loud and offered a key insight about relationships. Liz: What makes a guy get bored in a dating situation? Jack: Questions like that. The only change I’d make is to replace “bored” with “lose interest in.” I say that because … Read more
My recent 18 first dates were pretty normal. For the most part, we just went to get drinks. Nothing wrong with that. It’s low-key, a short time commitment, and you can always up the stakes and go to dinner or just call it a night without any awkwardness. Perhaps even more enjoyable than those were … Read more
During my recent 3-month nonstop dating adventure, I realized that there are three types of people out there (I could say “two types of women, because my sample group is all female, but I’m pretty sure this applies to guys too): People who talk too much when they get nervous on a date, people who … Read more
You’re on a first date at a restaurant. The bill comes. Pause it right there. This is a defining moment of a first date. Both people have decisions to make, behaviors to pick, things to say. So much can go wrong (although probably not wrong enough to ruin the date). Here’s what I think is … Read more
After dating two women back to back for a total of 5 years, I needed a break. I was intentionally single for about 5 months (for the most part), and I stayed single for a while after that. But I wanted to be more open to meeting women again, and I felt that my heart … Read more
Ah, the age-old question. People (65% women, 35% men) have been asking this question for centuries. The earliest reports date back to the agrarian societies of Mesopotamia (“To carrier pigeon or not to carrier pigeon?”), and they continue to this very day. These days, the question applies to a number of technologies beyond the phone. … Read more